There’s a reason why cowgirl (a.k.a. woman in top) is one of the guys’ all-time favorite sex positions, and it’s not just because it provides a spectacular view from below. When your partner (of any gender!) is on top, they can take full control of the rhythm and speed of sex which may just help you last longer in bed. If your partner has a vulva, they're more likely to orgasm, too, since they can control exactly where and how hard you hit that region of the internal clitoris known as the G-spot. It’s a win-win for everyone involved.
How it works: You lie on your back. Your partner straddles you, sitting on you like a horse. Their knees and shins are pressed to the bed.
Why it’s good: Your partner gets to take control. They can also tilt back or forward, controlling the depth of penetration and potential G-spot stimulation.
Squatting Cowgirl
How it works: It’s similar to cowgirl, only instead of your partner straddling you, they have their soles planted on the bed in a squatting position.
Why it’s good: With this position, you can grab your partner by the butt and thrust deep. So even though they're on top, you’re in control of the speed and motion.
Reverse Cowgirl
How it works: This one's just like the classic cowgirl, however, instead of your partner facing you, they're facing away from you.
Why it’s good: It’s all booty, right in your face.
Leaned-Back Reverse Cowgirl
How it works: Start in reverse cowgirl and then have your partner lean all the way back, so their back is against your chest and their forearms are resting on your sides.
Why it’s good: While thrusting, you can also cup your partner's breasts and play with their clitoris. If you do this position right, you can hit multiple erogenous zones.
The Crab
How it works: The crab is similar to squatting cowgirl, only your partner leans back and supports their weight on their arms.
Why it’s good: This position can really allow for deep penetration, but it can also be tough, physically. Start slowly to see if it works for you two. If it doesn’t, switch back to squatting cowgirl.
Man Missionary
How it works: It's like missionary, but with you on your back. Your legs should be kept together, and your partner's legs should be straddling your sides. The easiest way to get into this position is to start in classic cowgirl and then have your partner lean forward.
Why it’s good: It’s a very intimate position that allows for kissing.
The Lotus
How it works: To get into the lotus position, you need to sit down with your legs crossed and pulled in close to your body. Your partner should then sit on top of you, facing you. Then they can either wrap their legs around you or place them by your sides. You should hold onto their back to help support them and to keep your bodies close together.
Why it’s good: This position doesn’t allow for much thrusting, but it's another intimate pose that allows for hugging, kissing, caressing, and heavy eye contact.
Sideways Straddle
How it works: This one looks more complicated than it actually is. Lie on your back with one of your knees bent. The soul of your foot should be on the bed. Have her straddle the bent knee while facing away from you. From there, she can insert your penis inside of her and start grinding.
Why it’s good: This position, to be honest, is more for her than it is for you. There isn’t too much thrusting, but she can get organic clitoral stimulation by rubbing herself up against your leg while bouncing up and down on you.
